FIRST-DATE RED FLAGS:
EIGHT WAYS TO SPOT A NARCISSIST INSTANTLY

By: Khalif Barkhadle,
Digital Journalist

Published On: 9th February 2025

Going on a first date is both exciting and nerve-wracking. It’s the first step in getting to know someone, sharing stories, and seeing if there’s potential for something more. But while you’re focused on making a great impression, it’s equally important to observe the other person’s behaviour. One major reason? You might be sitting across from a narcissist.

Narcissists are known for their charm, confidence, and intelligence, but beneath the surface, they can bring toxicity to relationships. Spotting the signs early can save you from heartbreak and emotional turmoil down the road. Here’s how to spot the red flags of a narcissist on a first date.

1. They Dominate the Conversation

If your date spends most of the evening talking about themselves without giving you a chance to share, this could be a warning sign. Narcissists thrive on being the centre of attention. They may steer every topic toward their accomplishments, stories, or opinions, leaving little room to feel heard or valued

Pay attention to whether they ask you meaningful questions or engage honestly when you talk about yourself. If their interest in you seems superficial or fleeting, take notice.

2. They brag about their accomplishments