FOUR THINGS TO NEVER SAY TO A NARCISSIST

By: Khalif Barkhadle,
Digital Journalist

Published On:5th February 2025

If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, whether it's a family member, friend, or romantic partner, it's important to know what to avoid saying to them. Certain statements can trigger negative reactions or worsen the situation, leaving you feeling more confused and hurt. Understanding what not to say can help you protect yourself and maintain a bit of peace in the relationship. In this article, we will explore four things you should never say to a narcissist.

Narcissists are not normal people. When I say normal, I mean someone who wants to hear you, validate you, and care about you. With a narcissist, it is the complete opposite. It is all about “them”; it is not about “you” or “us”. You are not equal in the narcissist’s eyes because that would diminish the narcissistic egoic need for “more” and “superiority” – meaning power OVER others. You are merely an object to mine, manipulate, and exploit to feed the narcissist’s False self that insatiably requires “more” to try to exist.

There are lots of subtle things you should not say, like “Why can’t I share how I feel?” or even asking them the question of why they do anything. But beyond that subtle stuff, there are four things you definitely should not say in a narcissistic relationship. Because not only will it get you nowhere, but it can backfire. So keep these four things in your back pocket because knowing this can help you…