SIX THINGS NARCISSISTS DO WHEN YOU GO NO CONTACT

By: Khalif Barkhadle,
Digital Journalist

Published On: 23rd February 2025

When you finally cut a narcissist off, the real games begin. If you think they’re just going to leave you alone, think again. Here are six things narcissists do when you go no contact, so you can be prepared and stay one step ahead of them. Are you ready? Let’s go!

Now, let’s talk about what happens when you finally say enough is enough and make no contact with the narcissist.

Number 1: Hoovering
When you go no contact with someone who has a destructive narcissistic personality pattern, often the very first thing you’ll have to contend with is their relentless hoovering, meaning their attempts to suck you back into the toxic abuse cycle. A narcissist never truly lets go—not really. Whether it’s the moment you draw a line in the sand and shut the door for good or after the dust settles, at some point, you can expect a highly manipulative and calculated attempt to pull you back in.

And certainly not always, but sometimes, how they’ll do this is by suddenly apologizing. I know—shocking and completely out of character! But they’re not doing so genuinely or wholeheartedly; only to the absolutely necessary degree. The absolute bare minimum is what you’ll hear because, in reality, they don’t mean it. They’ll pretend to hear you, claim they get it now, and say they’re sorry—sort of. They may even promise they’ll change for real this time…