TEN WAYS A NARCISSIST SHOWS YOU WHO THEY REALLY ARE

By: Khalif Barkhadle,
Digital Journalist

Published On: 16th March 2025

It’s not always the grandiose pronouncements or obvious vanity. Sometimes, it’s the subtle shifts, the chilling inconsistencies that give them away. Today, we’re diving into 10 red flags, those telltale signs that pierce the carefully crafted facade and reveal the person beneath.

1. The Sudden, Inexplicable Chill
One moment, they’re showering you with affection; the next, it’s as if you’ve become invisible. This abrupt coldness often whispers of a new supply, a fresh source of validation. The initial warmth, the intense love bombing, might have been a performance, a tactic deployed while juggling other relationships or perhaps still involved with an ex.

That initial rush of affection, designed to hook you, swiftly evaporates, leaving you wondering what went wrong. Did you do something? Nine times out of ten, the answer lies not within you but in their insatiable need for constant validation.

Healthy individuals don’t morph into icebergs overnight. When someone’s affection plummets from fervent to frigid, it’s a glaring, neon-lit warning.

2. The Securement Phase
After the initial whirlwind, that intoxicating period of intense attention (which, let’s be honest, can feel amazing), things inevitably change. The honeymoon ends, and the mask slips. The coldness returns, perhaps because they found a new source…