THE REAL PAIN OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE EXPLAINED

By: Khalif Barkhadle,
Digital Journalist

Published On:16th December 2024

Now, some of you are not going to like this message because we have a very difficult time looking at our part in any toxic relationship, especially with narcissistic people. This is particularly true when we feel immense pain, anger, and confusion, and we find ourselves trapped in a state of fight or flight. But what if I told you that only 25% of your pain is caused by the narcissist’s behaviour? If you can grasp this message, you will reclaim your power, and you will never experience the pain of narcissistic abuse the same way again. Let’s explore this together.

Now, let’s dive into the topic: 25% of your pain comes from the narcissist’s behaviour, while 75% of the overwhelming majority comes from something deeper within yourself.

The Narcissist’s Hurtful Behaviour
Let’s be clear about something:

Narcissistic abuse of any kind does, indeed, hurt. It hurts to be called names, insulted, talked down to, yelled at, demeaned, and devalued. It hurts to be rejected, neglected, and ignored. It hurts when you’re lied about and gossiped about. All these things that narcissists do are painful, and they know it. That’s precisely why they do it: to control you and the relationship you’re in.

However, these painful actions are not confined to just this toxic relationship. You can experience similar hurtful behaviour anywhere…