WHEN YOU DO THIS SHIFT, THE NARCISSIST WILL COME RUNNING

By: Khalif Barkhadle,
Digital Journalist

Published On: 14th January 2025

Have you ever noticed how a narcissist suddenly reappears just as you begin to move on? You’ve taken steps to heal, built your confidence, and regained your independence. Then, out of nowhere, there they are—a text message, a phone call, a like on your social media, or even a comment. It feels uncanny, almost as if they have a radar that senses when their grip on you is loosening.

Why does this happen? In this article, we’ll unpack the psychology behind a narcissist’s behavior, why they re-enter your life when you’re thriving, and what you can do to protect yourself and maintain your newfound freedom.

What Narcissists Really Want
At the heart of a narcissist’s actions lies one driving force: control. Everything they do is centered around maintaining power over others, particularly those they see as valuable sources of validation
Despite their confident and self-assured exterior, narcissists are deeply insecure individuals. Beneath the surface lies a constant loop of negative thoughts—a relentless internal narrative telling them they’re unworthy, inadequate, or flawed. This deep-rooted insecurity drives their need for external validation to prop up their fragile self-esteem.

To protect themselves, narcissists construct a façade of perfection. They portray themselves as charming, successful, and…